Divorce Unrepentant Unbelievers, Husbands And Wives

Many Christians believe that God forbids divorce, even if the spouse (husband or wife) is an unbeliever. In this article, we will examine the verses that they use for their belief and verses that will absolutely prove that God does allow divorce and would even encourage a person to do so if the spouse refuses to repent in a timely manner. Please read this page in complete detail to sincerely examine all of the evidence, instead of just quickly glancing through it with your mind already determined to never change your beliefs. All of us need to be willing to grow in the knowledge of the truth.

The first verses that we will examine don't have anything to do directly with divorce, but is still very important to consider, in order to understand Paul's way of thinking and to understand some of his teachings.
1 Cor. 11:1-16
1 Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ.
2 Now I praise you, brethren, that ye remember me in all things, and keep the ordinances, as I delivered them to you.
(The word "ordinances" here does not refer to old covenant ordinances, but rather, this Greek word refers to customs and cultural traditions. Therefore, he is telling the people that part of what he is about to say is his own opinion based upon the customs of his culture. Not everything that Paul wrote was the law of God or "thus said God".)
3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
(We know that verse 3 is true and biblical and not customs, but after this verse, Paul starts mixing in his own opinion and customs.)
4 Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered, dishonoureth his head.
(This was definitely comes from culture of Paul's Roman society, in contrast to God's command for the male priests in the temple to wear a hat! Although Paul was a Hebrew with much Jewish education, he was born and raised in the Roman Empire in a Roman city and could not escape much influence from Roman society.)
5 But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven.
6 For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered.
7 For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man.
8 For the man is not of the woman: but the woman of the man.
9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.
10 For this cause ought the woman to have power on her head because of the angels.
11 Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.
12 For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God.
13 Judge in yourselves: is it comely that a woman pray unto God uncovered?
14 Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him?
(Numbers 6 says that long hair on a man can be a symbol of his holy devotion to God. In ancient Hebrew culture, long hair on a man was seen as symbolism of strength, honor and wisdom. Therefore, Paul was absolutely wrong that it's a shame for a man to have long hair. And no, nature does not teach that long hair on a man is a shame! Men are naturally able to have hair just as long as a woman. Paul was wrong about this! Paul was not Jesus. Paul is not God. Paul was a human, capable of mistakes just like any other human. Although I greatly respect Paul, people must stop acting like Paul is the perfect God!)
15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.
(I would absolutely agree with Paul on this point, that women should have long hair. It looks very unnatural for women to have short hair.)
16 But if any man seem to be contentious, we have no such custom, neither the churches of God.
(Paul said that if anyone disagreed and if it would cause any problems, that the church should not enforce his advice/custom about head coverings and male hair length. Therefore, even today, Christians and churches should stop trying to enforce Paul's ancient Roman customs!)

1 Cor. 7:12-14
12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

Verses 12-14 above is Paul speaking his personal opinion, not The Lord, about church members' marriages. Notice he was talking about if a brother was in this situation, therefore verses 12-14 is speaking of church members.
But even more importantly, notice that he claims that a household member can sanctify another household member! Please think about that! Then ask yourself these questions:
-On Judgment day, when the unbelieving husband or wife is standing at The Judgment Seat of Christ, will Jesus say to that person, that they are allowed free entrance into his perfect and eternal Kingdom, just only because they lived with a true believer? Even if the unbeliever never got saved? Even if they never repented of their sins? Even if they never were born again? NO!
-On Judgment day, when the unbelieving child of a saint is standing at The Judgment Seat of Christ, will Jesus say to that person, that they are allowed free entrance into his perfect and eternal Kingdom, just only because they were the descendant of a saint? Even if the unbeliever never got saved? Even if they never repented of their sins? Even if they never were born again? NO!

If you honestly believe that a lost soul will enter eternal paradise based upon who they are married to or related to, and not based upon personal salvation, then you yourself need to get saved! No one is sanctified by another person! Every person on Earth must answer for their own sins. Remember the high priest Eli, both of his sons were killed by God for their sins. They were not sanctified by their dad's prayers and sacrifices or their relationship. Remember Lot's wife. She was not saved by her husband. God does not change!

Not only will the unbelieving spouse and unbelieving children not be sanctified by a believer in the house, but the believer will be corrupted over time. The wickedness and demonic spirits will absolutely, over time, influence and wear down the believer. It is a very real danger to the soul of the believer to stay long term with the unbeliever. It's dangerous and unwise. It's dangerous for an alcoholic to live inside a bar! It's dangerous for a believer to live with an unbeliever!
Of course, I do highly encourage the believing husband or wife to share and witness to their spouse first before leaving and divorcing. The believer should pray and fast, and be long-suffering. But only a reasonable amount of time should be given for the long suffering. The long suffering should not be endless to the danger of the soul of the believer. My advice would be that the truly baptized, truly saved, born again believer, allow up to 6 months time for the unbelieving spouse to repent. That is more than enough time for prayer, fasting, studying, researching, waiting, enduring and long suffering, If the lost person hasn't repented in 6 months time, then they are not going to do so. The believer is free to divorce based upon the spiritual fornication/sins of the unbeliever. This is regardless of gender. The unbeliever will be guilty of rejecting the truth of Christ. They are guilty of trending under foot the holy word of God. They are probably guilty of demonic activity such as Halloween, horror movies or pagan holidays. They are guilty of having false gods set before and above the true one God. Because of all of these sins, the believing spouse would be free and wise to deliver themselves out of bondage (unequal yoke). Until they choose deliverance, the believing spouse will be hindered in their spiritual development and free exercise of religion to fully obey God. There is no way that the believer will be free to fully serve God 100% in all things while still chained to a lost soul. How can a believing wife, living with an unbelieving husband, be free to fully keep all of the commanded days of Passover, Pentecost and the pilgrimage for the Fiesta of Tabernacles, etc.? They will both enter eternal death together, as the believer has chosen their lost spouse to be their commanding god.

Now, let's return to 1 Cor. 7 to read the next verses:
:10 And unto the married (now speaking of people outside of the church) I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

(Now, when speaking of people outside of the church, Paul now declares that God commands married people to stay together. And he does not list any exceptions. However, since we already know that Paul was already wrong about head coverings, long hair on men and lost people being sanctified by believers, we should examine other bible scripture outside of Paul's writings to see if we find anything to confirm or reject Paul's teaching on this. And we will examine such verses later in this article.)

:16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

How do you know if you would save the spouse? If you have been with that person for only a short time, that's correct. But if you have been with that person for many years, then you should surely be able to determine if the person is capable of repentance soon or not! If he or she has already rejected every bible verse, every article, every web page, every point of proof, every reasoning, for month, after month, after month, and they still don't accept, then you should be wise enough and smart enough to finally accept the reality that the unbelieving spouse is not going to repent and is hindering you from fully enjoying your life with Christ. It's time to break the chains!

1 Peter 3:1-6 Peter followed Paul's teachings on divorce & marriage.
:1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

But these are general statements. What about real and severe physical abuse? There must be some exceptions to the general rule!
What if the husband or wife was a magnet for demons and demonic dreams or demonic visions or demons in the house?
What if devils are telling you that they would give you the entire world if you fall away?
God does not want a woman, or a man, either one, to stay in a severely bad relationship where someone is punching you in the eye or in the face, or giving you a black eye, or giving you a bloody nose, or break your teeth, or break your bones, or choke you. To stay in such a severely bad relationship would be physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally dangerous. And it would be foolish to use Paul's writings to excuse your excuses for not leaving. I am 100% confident that if Paul was alive and knew your situation, that even Paul would tell you to leave and to divorce. There must be exceptions to almost every rule! The purpose of God's laws are to help people, not to hurt them!
Please understand that when I speak about physical abuse, I am talking about real abuse, not discipline. A husband has the right to discipline his wife. Proper discipline of a wife or child would include the allowance of spanking the wife or child on their butt, withholding money or television, phone, internet, computer, etc, or withholding freedom to go places for a limited time. Such actions are not abuse if the discipline is for the sins of the wife or child.

Peter 1:1 wrote to more people, more congregations, but still, he was writing very generalized statements to that generation. Context of both was that women were leaving men based upon minor problems and using the husband's unbelief as a quick easy excuse. NO words in these verses say "Forever". So how long? Until Christ comes? Live with a devil worshipper until Christ comes? NO WAY! These are general statements. We must compare with ALL of the bible to see exceptions and situations that change. Malachi 2 (Entire chapter) goes against marrying & staying with spouses of foreign gods. Interracial marriage with unbelievers. When cross referencing 1 Cor. 7, I came to Mal. 2. Which at first appearance seems to say that we can't divorce. But it's very specific to Israelites (Old Testament saved people) divorcing Israelites (O.T. saved people) and marrying Gentiles (O.T. lost people). I sincerely examined myself with these scriptures as well as with 1 Cor. 7 and Peter. But Mal. 2 led me to search to see if the husband in question is a gentile. (I had already planned on reexamining the issue of interracial marriages ASAP!!!! This is part of this divine miracle revelation of God's will concerning this marriage! God considers it as forbidden.) When I goggled his name, the only real good result was a Hindu version of Facebook, which showed that he is a member of a group called "I Love Cows"! Upon farther examination, there's nothing else to indicate that he's Hindu. But it's amazing that this American who is not a Hindu, was found online only via a Hindu website reflecting worship of cows! What this said to me was that God considers this husband as a heathen, pagan, forbidden spouse. It's not the color of the skin that God is concerned about in interracial marriages, but rather, believers in the true God becoming unequally yoked with demonic people, which is what is truly forbidden. In the bible, unbelievers were considered as the children of Satan. An unbelieving husband would be a temple of Satan, and Satan's seed entering the Temple of God wife. Yuck. What is a "Holy Covenant" when we speak of marriage? It's a marriage between 2 spiritual Israelites. A marriage where both people are His children. Jews do not recognize a marriage between a believer and a non-believer. Both have entered into agreement in Holy covenant with God and with each other. But according to these verses, a person who is not saved, is a child of the devil, and cannot be considered as having entered into a Holy Covenant, but rather such marriage breaks the covenant with God for the Israelite that enters into marriage with an unbeliever. What would be the act of repentance in the situation of Mal.2? = Divorce. Divorce from the unbelievers would be the method of repentance in that situation! Malachi 2 proves that Paul & Peter's opinions were wrong. Paul & Peter were men. Malachi 2 are the words of God. Paul was wrong when he said that the spouse is sanctified by the believing spouse. You can't be sanctified by someone else. Only by your own obedience & faithfulness to God Himself. If a Christian woman has been with her unbelieving husband for her entire life, or for several years, it would be ridiculous for her to think that he will ever change just because of her example. If he doesn't change after a few months or a year of witnessing to him, he's not going to change. I usually do advise for women to stay and long suffer for a reasonable about of time. But not necessary if she has already done that. Time to move on! If she was a man it wouldn't be as bad. Because men are stronger and have more free reign. But a woman in her situation will be victim to her husband's hindrance. 1 Cor. 5:6 A little leaven, leavens the whole lump. What benefit is there to remove evil books, symbols if you are going to keep the spirit/soul that is a magnet to demons MORE than those books & symbols?! A book/symbol can't speak or move. But that soul will speak and will move and will work against you. People are much more important to move out of your life than books themselves. I know that for a fact. When leaving the homosexual lifestyles many years ago, it wasn't good enough to just throw away books, I also had to physically leave my homosexual lover and stay away from ALL homosexuals. 1 Cor. 9:24 All run in a race, but only one can win. 2 Cor. 6:14-16 "What fellowship does light have to do with darkness". There is no darkness/variable of shadow in God. Light and darkness cannot coexist in same HOUSE! One or the other WILL cast out the other! If not, then the light is not bright enough! Everyone serves a god, either Jesus or Satan. Whether they think they do or not, they still do. Matthew 16:24-26 Deny Self, Forsake Others, Follow Jesus. 8:19-22 Let the dead (unsaved family) bury their dead. God wants ALL of us. NOT just part of us. He wants FULL surrender. The principal/lesson of tithing is putting God FIRST. NOT last. NOT 2nd or 3rd. God First in all things. 9:9-13 Matthew forsook his job immediately. What if Matthew said let me bury my dad first or take care of mom first? This includes "I desire mercy, not sacrifice". But that does not mean we shouldn't sacrifice. The very next chapter says we must take up our cross and deny ourselves. Matthew had just done that. So yes He wants sacrifice. But He said He wants us to learn what the phrase/verse means, which is that He has mercy on sinners. He came to call sinners to Himself. That's mercy. But then we must sacrifice. Mercy is first. He died for us while we were still sinners. But He doesn't stay/long-suffer with us forever. He leaves us. Yes, He forsakes us when we forsake/leave Him. It's NOT true/accurate to say that He NEVER forsakes us even if we do Him. That's totally unbiblical. His Arm is always stretched out if we seek Him, but He is not always keeping us or guarding us always when we are absent from Him. See "Cast Out" Lev. 16 Day of Atonement sermons and article. Adam and Eve got cast out from God and from the garden. Our sins separate us from God. He does NOT hearken to the prayers of the lost. If sin separates us from God, then how can we live in the same house as a sinner? Matthew 10:5-42 Remove peace from house if does not accept truth. 5:31-32 Fornication is acceptable reason for divorce. Fornication in the bible is more often spiritual idolatry, not as often physical. Not talking about adultery only. Luke 14:26 Willing to forsake parents, wife, children, physical brothers, sisters, own life. 18:29 A husband was also to not forsake wives normally, not children their parents, but yet Jesus said that husbands and children should forsake wives and parents if necessary in order to follow Him. Lisa would not forsake mom because of 'honor your parents". But she was really choosing to follow that one principal theology. (New term!) Same as one verse theology but with many select verses to support it. "One principal theology" considers many verses, but still also ignores many other verses. We need to consider all of the bible as a whole, not just selected verses that we want to follow over and above all other verses. Although the bible promotes marriage and not divorce, it also promotes forsaking ANYONE, including spouses & parents, who would in any way hinder us from serving Jesus 100%, and also promotes not living/compromising with any form of darkness! Daniel & the other Israelite captive/slaves submitted to the wicked Babylonian government authorities/masters as commanded by scripture, but NOT when it hindered his relationship with God. He still prayed 3 times per day and abstained from foods sacrificed to idols and refused to bow at graven images, etc. -Under Israeli law, even slaves are set free by law every 7-50 years if the were saved/Israelites. Acts 5:29 Better to obey God than man. What is the greatest authority on Earth? Husbands or human government or God's government? Don't wait until the Great Tribulation to follow Jesus 100%. -Time is short. -Disciples followed Him 3.5 years. Did not wait until the last minute like the foolish women in Matthew 25. Took years to study under Him to learn His ways and not tradition. (Paul wasn't there.) What would you do to follow Jesus after the start of the Great Tribulation but are not already doing now? (Other than hiding.)
Each person only willing to go so far, not all the way.
-Not accept the calling of service as pastor until the Great Tribulation begins.
-No baptism until after graduate school, leave school, leave parents and the Great Tribulation begins. This puts many people and many things before God.
-Several listen but never reach out for baptism.
-If ask about baptism, don't follow up. Not reach back for baptism. (People need to be the ones that seek, and re-seek, for baptism. I shouldn't have to push at all.)
-Quit after I declared my writings as scripture. Yet can you find anyone on Earth today who's writings are as authoritative as mine? Did God stop talking 2000 years ago?
As an apostle and prophet, yes I am a voice of God. I am speaking God's words and writing under the influence of The Holy Ghost as the prophets of old also did. I am in the office of the 2 witnesses. I don't understand why this is difficult to accept. Have you not read the website articles, books and AOB???? Have you not considered the weight of the Great Tribulation revelation, and also the revelation of the 5 holy days in the end time prophetic timeline? Do not these revelations carry the weight of modern day scripture?
-Would you not follow the commands of Moses, Noah or Paul if you lived in their time? Yet all of those men are dead. God always appoints living apostles and prophets for every generation. Of which, we should obey over and above all other mankind. They are the voice of God on Earth.
-Can't absolutely declare the demon-rats as wicked. Beat around the bush to only say that don't like politics. Can't declare why God must be only one Spirit and not 3 spirits.
-Putting child and husband first. Won't forsake anyone.

Q: At what point should the females stop being like weak worldly gentile slaves to their husbands and be neither male or female in The Kingdom of God?
Q. What what point should a female become more of "the bride of Christ" rather than a bride of a lost man?
Answer: Well before Jesus comes. So that she won't be a babe in Christ when He comes.
If she's still a babe in Christ at the 1st Resurrection, she will be in the 2nd R and will be one of his 2nd wives, and not a 1st wife. I just believe that both men and women should follow Jesus 100% and that it's not possible for women who live with unbelieving husbands.

God always forbid His people from marrying unbelievers. Unbelievers were considered "dogs". Repentance would be divorce from unbelievers. Light and Darkness cannot walk together in agreement. Amos 3:3 Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so? What about the need for true brothers & sisters in person with local pastor? Even if allowed to keep all of the holy days fully, etc, there will still be a hindrance to your spiritual growth just be living with darkness. Cannot live with darkness without it effecting you negative in some way. What about when Halloween comes? Future Xmas gatherings? Demonic friends that enter the house? Demonic family members? Demonic books/movies/symbols that still remain? How can light live with darkness and still have peace? Additional Research/Facts/Considerations: Interfaith marriage in Judaism https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interfaith_marriage_in_Judaism Wives Grounds for divorce in Judaism https://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/560111/jewish/The-Wifes-Grounds-for-Divorce.htm Abraham Was Willing To Sacrifice His Own Son: Genesis 22 Moses married the black Ethiopian woman, so it's not really about skin color, but I guarantee you that she was a true believer. Gentile concubines (sex slaves) but not wives. Consider Solomon and how his heathen wives led him astray. Mark 9:42-48 to 10:1-8 cast out your own eyes or hands, divide the body, your own body, two people shall become one flesh is one body, part of your body, but not your "better half", but rather your sinful half. Ezra 10 The Israelite men repented and divorced their unbelieving gentile heathen wives! What About The Children? Gen.21:9-21 God's will that Abraham cast out one of his wives' name Hagar and her son Ishmael. Even GOD divorces Judah and Israel for their unrepentant sins!

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