How and Why to successfully overcome a Homosexual lifestyle
(Written by Pastor Tim, who was Delivered by GOD from a homosexual lifestyle)
2 Cor. 5:17 "Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new."
We all have sins. We all fall short of the Glory of God. But when you turn your heart and life over to God, you do make changes. You do become a new creation in Christ. You do NOT stay the same, when you become Christian, this is true for ALL Christians, Gay or not gay, you do NOT stay the same, you make a change completely from your previous lifestyle, everything changes! You are crucified with Christ and resurrected with Christ. A real Christian is a NEW Person, You change who you are, You do NOT remain the same person you were born as or became!!!
Even if you was born with gay issues, that does not mean that you cannot overcome it, and does not mean that you should not want to overcome it. Some people are also born alcoholic and with drug addictions and with mental issues. But that does NOT mean that God wants you to identify yourself as your inherited weakness. He doesn't want you to say "I was born an alcoholic, therefore there is nothing wrong with me getting drunk and continuing to make mistakes because that's the way God made me and that's what I am, I am an alcoholic person, now and forever with no need to change in any way or form". We ALL have issues and need to change and grow in some way. We all fall short of the glory of God. But it doesn't mean that the homosexual should not overcome. We should ALL be seeking to overcome the flesh including all our weaknesses, addictions, habits and unholy lifestyles!
I know you are seeking love. Everyone seeks Love. There is a greater Love from God than you can even imagine. Through him, we can be more than conquerers. We can overcome anything.
He will not allow anything to come against us that we cannot bear.
It may be very hard. But we can bear it and overcome it.
He did not promise that it would be an easy road. But he did say that if we obey him and follow him that he would provide for us and protect us and give us joy. As we go down life's rough road, we get a few bumps in the head and a few stab wounds, but we are strengthened and molded into becoming what God wants us to really be. It is a growing process. Baby steps are acceptable! And YES I KNOW you have BEGGED God to remove it from you! But it's not meant for Him to just "remove" it, it's meant for you to OVERCOME it. It's hard but nothing is impossible with God. Did I say "NOTHING"? Yes! With God, YOU can overcome it through the strength He can give you if you take actions in your life to apply. It's not a matter of just stop thinking about it. If you want to do this, you have to make changes in your surroundings, decisions, choices, habits, etc. Yes I know you did NOT choose this lifestyle. Absolutely not! Why would anyone choose to be the center of ridicule? You did NOT choose it.
No One chooses to become gay, despite what most Christians claim!
But something did happen in your life to bring this on you. Homosexuality is not a one minute decision. It's decades of disfunctional families, disfunctional relationships, sinful temptations, sinful influences, leftish brainwashing and wrong decisions. Deliverance from homosexuality, in most cases, is not a snap of the finger. It's decades of undoing the damage that took decades to form the person's homosexual sinful lifestyle and sinful thinking. It's a slow process that takes effort. If GOD was to just deliver us in a snap of a finger, that would inhibit our growth as a person. We are meant to overcome/workout our trails and tribulations and salvation, in order to perfect who we are.
When a ex-gay person gets caught in a homosexual act, Does it prove that a gay person cannot change? NO! It only proves that ,in most cases, it is not an overnight change. Anytime a person is trying to overcome something, they WILL have relapses until they are finally strong enough to resist the temptation every time and to stay clean for themselves and for THE LORD.
Facts and Myths
-Myth: "I was born gay" Fact: Last I checked, babies are not born with any sexual desires. They are innocent and do not know any thing about sex. They are NOT born gay nor straight, They are NOT born sexual creatures!!! The atmosphere around them, what is said and taught and events in their lives changes their innocence thru out their growing years and even adult lives. Each person developes over the years and every person is tempted with many things. We all make choices on a daily basis. Yes, Steal that, NO don't steal that. Go with that person to that place oR No. No person just wakes up one day and says, hey I'm choose to be gay. Right!!! But they make MANY choices over the years that eventually shapes their chosen lifestyle. Their sexuality is developed over their lifetime. i would really like to encourage you to please watch the following video. It is only 17 minutes.
-Myth: "Jesus never said anything against homosexuality". Fact: In John 1, we learn that Christ existed with the Father even from the beginning. Jesus in fact IS the Word of GOD, The entire Word of GOD including the Old Testament scriptures. He is the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the ending. He existed from the beginning. Christ said the Father was in him and Him in the Father. They are one. IF the Father said anything against homosexual behavior, then so did Christ. They are in agreement. If ANY of the Word of GOD says anything against homosexual behavior, then so does Christ because He IS the Word of GOD!!! Plus the Apostle Paul spoke out against homosexuality. Paul was an ambassador of Jesus Christ. He spoke as led by the Holy Spirit. Yes Paul was a man. But he was a man of GOD.
-Excuse: I don't have to change who I am.
-Answer: Actually, You do!!! We all do!!! Everyone must change!!! We were all born in a world of sin. Over the years we all become deceived. Rev. 12:9. We become adversely effected by the evil that is in the world. We all become dirty. We must be cleansed by the Passover Blood of Christ and become dead to sin and become a new person. No matter what your lifestyle has been in the pass, We ALL must change and deny ourselves and follow Him. That is scripture!!! The Holy Bible says we are to morify the body, to crucify the flesh and to live in the Spirit of GOD. To be a Good Christian, We are to be Led by the Spirit of GOD. To be in a gay lifestyle, you are led by the flesh and you worship the flesh. I know this is 100% true because I was in the lifestyle for many years. I do not speak of these things blindly. The gay lifestyle and the christian life are completely opposite and contrary to one another. They are incompatible. The Flesh is enemy against GOD.
Romans 8:1 There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.
:5 For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit.
6For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.
7Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.
8So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God.
9But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his.
12Therefore, brethren, we are debtors, not to the flesh, to live after the flesh.
13For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.
14For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
2 Cor. 5:17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
Mark 8:34 And when he had called the people unto him with his disciples also, he said unto them, Whosoever will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me.
-Myth: "The bible was just written by man, and is NOT the true Word of GOD".
-FACT: It's interesting that when you do research in history books, encycopedias or even on the internet on sites like wikipedia, that you consider all those sources as Fact but yet deny the power of GOD to preserve His Word. The Dead Sea Scrolls have been discovered and help prove the accuracy and legitamacy of the Holy Scriptures. Even without the Dead Sea Scrolls, there is Much Historical Proof of the authority of the Bible. To try to refute the Bible is to ignore the many prophecies of the Bible that have already been historically fulfilled!!! Although I must admit that a Very FEW verses were added into the Bible Collection over the years, We still KNOW that the Bible overall is Amazingly Accurate and Perserved. By referencing the Strongs Concordance and other reference books and resources available to us, We actually DO KNOW which verses were added. Overall, the Scriptures remain amazingly accuate and intact!!!
-Excuse: "I shouldn't deny my happiness".
-Answer: RIGHT!!! You should be happy and content and satisfied!!! Have you ever really been happy, satisfied and content in your gay lifestyle? I highly doubt it. I lived the lifestyle many many years and never found any lasting happiness or true love. It was heartbreak after heartbreak and failure and failure. The Gay lifestyle is a very hard life to live as you know! More often than not, it is filled with alcohol, drugs and adultery. After coming out of the lifestyle and completley submitting to GOD and His Way of life, I now have MORE Joy and Happiness then at ANY time of my life!!! In fact, It's Peace & Joy beyond imagination! I just cannot really explain it! It's an unspeakable joy and peace!!! You should NOT deny yourself this kind of lasting eternal Joy, Peace and Comfort!!! The world did not give me this joy and the world cannot take it away!!!
What the Holy Scriptures Say
1 Corinthians 6:9 (English Standard Version)
Or do you not know that the unrighteous [Or wrongdoers] will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: [1 Corinthians 15:50; Gal 5:21; Eph 5:5; 1 Tim 1:9; Heb 12:14; 13:4; Rev 21:8; 22:15] neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, [The two Greek terms translated by this phrase refer to the passive and active partners in consensual homosexual acts]
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 - "Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God." (NIV).
1 Corinthians 6:11 - "And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God." (NIV)
Leviticus 18:22 - "Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable." (NIV)
Leviticus 20:13 - "If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They must be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads." (NIV)
Deuteronomy 22:5 (KJV) The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.
Romans 1:26-27 - "Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion." (NIV)
1 Timothy 1:10 (ESV)
the sexually immoral, men who practice homosexuality, enslavers, [That is, those who take someone captive in order to sell him into slavery] liars, perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to [2 Tim 4:3; 1 Timothy 6:3; 2 Tim 1:13; Titus 1:13; 2:2] sound [Or healthy] doctrine,
Romans 1:25-32: (KJV)
25Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.
26For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:
27And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.
28And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;
29Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,
30Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
31Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:
32Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.
1And you hath he quickened, who were dead in trespasses and sins;
2Wherein in time past ye walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that now worketh in the children of disobedience:
3Among whom also we all had our conversation in times past in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind; and were by nature the children of wrath, even as others.
4But God, who is rich in mercy, for his great love wherewith he loved us,
5Even when we were dead in sins, hath quickened us together with Christ, (by grace ye are saved;)
6And hath raised us up together, and made us sit together in heavenly places in Christ Jesus:
7Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.
8Likewise also these filthy dreamers defile the flesh, despise dominion, and speak evil of dignities (Christians).
How to Overcome the homosexual lifestyle
28 keys points that if you follow all these 28 points, you WILL finally be FREEEEEEE Praise GOD!!!
Rev. 3:5 He that overcometh, the same shall be clothed in white raiment; and I will not blot out his name out of the book of life, but I will confess his name before my Father, and before his angels.
Don't just pick one or two, but rather, do them ALL and you will have success!!!
Repent and Confess your sins. Ask GOD to come into your life, mind, body, heart, spirit and soul and to take control of your life. Accept Christ as Saviour. Ask forgiveness of your sins and ask for a change of life. Ask for strength. Pray at least 3 times daily and also without ceasing. Also ask others to pray for you.
2. Change your life! Very important! Absolutely must do!
This is where most people fail. This is a must do!
Remove the tempation and anything that would stir up the tempation.
Move!!! AND Change your phone number and your email address! Don't tell any gay person your new addresses or phone number! No gay roommates allowed!!! Change your email addresses! You must separate yourself from your former lifestyle and all those that would pull you back into the lifestyle that you want out of. Just as an alcoholic cannot be sober and remain sober in a house or atmosphere of drinkers, neither can a recovering sex addict become or remain "sober" in an atmosphere inducive to sexual activity. Yes those ex-friends will hate you. But you cannot live your life for them. You have to do what you have to do to separate yourself from those that would influence you. Trust me, I've been there. You cannot, absolutely cannot live a life of freedom if you are tied to your gay friends and gay roommates. You must be strong and stand up for your new life choice. If you hang out in a barbar shop, eventually you are going to end up with a haircut! If you hang out in a bar, you are eventually going to take a drink! If you give the devil an inch, he will take a mile! Don't give him an inch!
3. Attend Church services often and regularly. This is a very big support. You need support. Attend every week and even twice a week or more if possible. Even attend 2 different churches if necessary to attend more than once a week. Being in an environment of GODs Word and others who are also trying to live for Him will help you and encourage you as well as spending time away from the house.
4. Accountability partner:
Ask a pastor, minister or family member or friend to be your accountability partner, a person you can call anytime in the night or day any day of the week or weekend to talk you out of going to the gay bar or other place that causes you to fall. This partner cannot be a gay person nor an ex-gay person.
5. Be Baptized in water, full immersion. Repent and be baptized. You do not have to wait until you are perfect to do this. NO person is perfect regardless of how long you wait. Do not wait long. Once you are baptized, you have this greater tool in your arsenal. You must be baptized according to Gods Word and this will help you.
6. Read the Bible every day. At least one chapter but I recommend 3 chapters per day. GODS word is very important. Do not miss this step.
7. Confess with your mouth to God
Rom 10:9 That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
Rom 10:10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
1Jo 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
8. Accept Jesus and his Love, Mercy, Grace and Forgiveness
9. confess to others that you are living for God (then they will either run away or they will support you)
10. burn or throw out all influences, pictures, porno, movies, music, magazines, letters, decorations, etc. that would influence you to backslide. Don't wait to sell them. Don't give them away either but rather throw these things away immediately or burn them in a outdoor fire pit.
11. anoint your house
12. do not allow any evil to enter your house or body
13. fasting (at least once per month) Mark 9:29 "And he said unto them, This kind can come forth by nothing, bt by prayer and fasting."
14. Christian music (often as possible) even have christian music playing in your house while you are away from the house! This helps keep the house clean and let's intruders think there's someone home!
15. praise him daily even during your worst times. Like the apostle Paul did at the midnight hour in prison Acts 16:19-26
16. be in thanksgiving (Phillippians 4:6)
17. think on positive things (Philippians 4:8)
18. count your blessings, not your problems
19. focus straight ahead on Jesus, not to the left and not to the right
20. confine (confess privately) in a christian friend Jam 5:16 Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.
21. faith, knowledge that God is real (Hebrews 11:1 Faith is the substance of things hoped for, evidence of things not seen)
22. Understand that your salvation is not dependent on just you and your righteousness but on the righteousness, faithfullness and grace of God. It is thru His Strength that He will help you daily. If you fall, pick yourself back up and keep going. Slips and falls are part of the growing process. You are not yet perfect. Neither am i. But we put the pass behind us and keep going. Don't beat yourself up over one mistake. repent and keep going. Don't give up.
23. forgiveness of self and others
24. put notes and bible verses around house and on walls
25. testify to others what God HAS done for you (Rev.12:11)
27. Know that you were born with a great purpose
28. Write in a daily Journal. This will help you remember what God has done for you and also help you realize things.
If you follow ALL of the above steps, You WILL eventually be successful in your journey of becoming and staying FREE from the bondage of a homosexual lifestyle. Praise GOD!!! When you stumble and fall, And you will, don't give up! This addiction is like all other addictions, you will have your ups and your downs. You must continue and stay on your journey, just pick yourself up and keep going. Ask for forgiveness each time and wipe off the dust, accept Christ forgiveness of your sins and ask for strength to stand stronger next time. Go back over each of the above steps and stay away from ALL porn!!! Stay away from drugs!!! They are tools of satan to pull you down into the pits of hell and you must abstain from those snares!!! GOD Bless YOU and I know you will become successful in your journey with GOD.
GOD Delivered me from homosexuality! i am Happier Now, than at any other time in my whole life! HE wants to Deliver YOU too!