The word "polygamy" is a combination of two words "poly" that means "multiple" and "gamy" which means female, women, wives. Polygamy is defined as a man having more than one wife. The term "polygyny" is what we usually are talking about when speaking of polygamy. Polygyny is when a man has multiple simultaneous wives. It was extremely common in biblical Old Testament times. Today, it is still common among Muslims, Mormons, some Jews and even some Christians in Africa & the middle east. It is much less common in modern western civilizations. Most Christians assume that Polygamy is forbidden in the New Testament. What does the bible really say about Polygamy?
First of all, as a legal disclaimer: I do NOT promote or condone the LEGAL marriage of more than just 1 man & 1 woman in communities where the law forbids polygamy. Legal marriage between more than 2 people is called "bigamy" which is illegal in many regions of the world, especially in the USA. I do NOT condone or promote bigamy. In fact, I encourage people to NOT be legally married. Marriage in the bible was ALWAYS just a man & woman having sex & living together. People in the bible NEVER had a marriage license, nor did they seek the approval of man's government. Marriage in the bible is a sacred spiritual union of male and female as constituted via sexual relationship. (Click here to read an article that studies what marriage is in the bible.) Man's government has no authority to regulate or license marriage. I teach that we should obey & respect human government which is what the bible teaches. We are NOT sovereign citizens. But man's government has no real authority over spiritual unions. Therefore I do not promote bigamy where a man is legally married to more than one woman in an oppressive government that forbids such. The point/objective/issue/subject of this article is WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS. This article is protected by the US Constitution guarantee of expression of free speech and freedom of religion. I am not promoting the breaking of any law.
Originally: Polygamy in the Old Testament
Will these men NOT be in the Kingdom of GOD? Where/When did GOD condemn them for having more than one wife?
Moses: 2 Wives, Zipporah and the Ethiopian Woman:
Exodus 2:21 "And Moses was content to dwell with the man: and he gave Moses Zipporah his daughter."
Numbers 12:1 "And Miriam and Aaron spake against Moses because of the Ethiopian woman whom he had married: for he had married an Ethiopian woman."
There is nothing to indicate or conclude that Moses divorced his first wife, or that she died. We cannot assume those things. Therefore we are forced to believe that Moses married a second wife.
David: 2 Samuel 12:8 "And I gave thee thy master's house, and thy master's WIVES into thy bosom, and gave thee the house of Israel and of Judah; and if that had been too little, I would moreover have given unto thee such and such things."
1 Kings 15:3 "And he walked in all the sins of his father, which he had done before him: and his heart was not perfect with the Lord his God, as the heart of David his father."
(Verse 3 says that David's heart was PERFECT with GOD! Even though he had more than one wife at the same time.)
1 Kings 15:5 "Because David did that which was RIGHT in the eyes of the LORD, and turned not aside from any thing that he commanded him all the days of his life, save ONLY (excpet only) in the matter of Uriah the Hittite. "
Was the polygamy of David acceptable & pleasing to GOD? Yes! GOD gave David a report card of grade A. The only exception was David's sin of murdering Bathshea's husband and attaining her in that method.
2 Chronicles 3 lists the descendants of King David, from his 11 children by 7 wives. 1 Samuel also mentions another wife. Also, 1 Samuel 19 identifies Merab who was given to David by her father Saul. David had OTHER wives that were never named in the bible. So he had at least 8-9 wives but chances are that he had many more that were not listed in the bible. He also had concubines.
Solomon: 700 official wives and 300 concubines. 1 Kings 11:1-3. Solomon's problem was NOT that he had more than 1 wife. But rather that he allowed women to lead him into worship of false gods. Even if he had been married to only one woman, he could have made the same mistake.
Abraham: Genesis 16:2-4, Galatians 4:22
Jacob had more than 1 wife at the same time. Gen.29:23-30; 31:17; 32:22 Genesis 30:1-24; 37:2
Gideon had many wives and a concubine. Judges 8:30-31
Hosea: Hosea 1:3 "So he went and took Gomer the daughter of Diblaim; which conceived, and bare him a son."
Hosea 3:1 "Then said the LORD unto me, Go yet, love a woman beloved of her friend, yet an adulteress, according to the love of the LORD toward the children of Israel, who look to other gods, and love flagons of wine."
The Father in the Old Testament
In the Old Testament, The Father is symbolically represented as having two wives:
In Ezekiel 23, "Aholah" which is Samaria & "Aholibah" which is Jerusalem, also represented as Israel & Judah in Jeremiah 3.
Ezekiel 23:4 "And the names of them were Aholah the elder, and Aholibah her sister: and they were mine, and they bare sons and daughters. Thus were their names; Samaria is Aholah, and Jerusalem Aholibah."
Jeremiah 3:6-14 "The LORD said also unto me in the days of Josiah the king, Hast thou seen that which backsliding Israel hath done? She is gone up upon every high mountain and under every green tree, and there hath played the harlot. And I said after she had done all these things, Turn thou unto me. But she returned not. And her treacherous sister Judah saw it. And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also. And it came to pass through the lightness of her whoredom, that she defiled the land, and committed adultery with stones and with stocks. And yet for all this her treacherous sister Judah hath not turned unto me with her whole heart, but feignedly, saith the LORD. And the LORD said unto me, The backsliding Israel hath justified herself more than treacherous Judah. Go and proclaim these words toward the north, and say, Return, thou backsliding Israel, saith the LORD; and I will not cause mine anger to fall upon you: for I am merciful, saith the LORD, and I will not keep anger for ever. Only acknowledge thine iniquity, that thou hast transgressed against the LORD thy God, and hast scattered thy ways to the strangers under every green tree, and ye have not obeyed my voice, saith the LORD. Turn, O backsliding children, saith the LORD; for I am married unto you: and I will take you one of a city, and two of a family, and I will bring you to Zion"
Jeremiah 31:31-34 "Behold, the days come, saith the LORD, that I will make a new covenant with the house of Israel, and with the house of Judah: Not according to the covenant that I made with their fathers in the day that I took them by the hand to bring them out of the land of Egypt; which my covenant they brake, although I was an husband unto them, saith the LORD: But this shall be the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel; After those days, saith the LORD, I will put my law in their inward parts, and write it in their hearts; and will be their God, and they shall be my people. And they shall teach no more every man his neighbour, and every man his brother, saying, Know the LORD: for they shall all know me, from the least of them unto the greatest of them, saith the LORD: for I will forgive their iniquity, and I will remember their sin no more."
Question: "Yes many men in the bible had more than one wife, but was it pleasing or acceptable to GOD?"
Answer: GOD Himself was married to more than one woman at the same time. Even Jesus is described as being willing to marry 10 women at the same time in Matt.25! Yes, it's pleasing to GOD, HE did it himself and will do so again.
It was the Will of GOD for Jacob to have more than one wife.
Jacob, who was renamed Israel, married Leah by accident in Genesis 29:21-25. Then he married his true love, Rachel in Gen.29:26-30. Then Rachel told Jacob in Gen.30:1-4 to marry Bilhah. In Gen.30:9, Jacob married Zilpah. Therefore he had 4 wives at one time. NONE of them had a marriage license. None of them went to a preacher or a courthouse or to any government for permission or to pay fees. They simply had sex, and were instantly considered by GOD and by each other to be officially married. Each of these 4 women gave birth to the children of Israel, the 12 tribes. All 12 tribes were ordained to be born by these 4 women. Jacob did not sin by having sex with these women. It was NOT against the will of GOD. It was supposed to happen and was approved by The Almighty. Is Polygamy pleasing and acceptable to GOD? Yes, It was pleasing & acceptable to GOD for Jacob to marry all 4 women. If he had not done so, then 12 tribes of Israel would not exist. It was GOD's Will.
New Testament: Jesus Marrying Many People in The Body of Christ
Matthew 25:1 "Then shall the kingdom of heaven be likened unto ten virgins, which took their lamps, and went forth to meet the bridegroom."
The "bride groom" here is referring to Jesus. We all agree on that. The 10 virgins are all engaged to marry Jesus. 5 of the virgins are wise. The other 5 are foolish & they don't actually get to marry Jesus. But the 5 wise virgin women do eventually marry Jesus. Of course this is symbolic of the church being the bride of Christ. But it is also Jesus talking, here in the NEW TESTAMENT & HE is using the analogy of polygamy concerning himself & the new covenant church! WHY would Christ do that if polygamy is forbidden in the new covenant? HE WOULDN'T! It's VERY simple. There is simply NOT any bible verse in the old or new testaments that forbid polygamy. Instead, the New Testament supports polygamy!
1 Cor.12:12 (NASB) "For even as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though they are many, are one body, so also of Christ."
When Jesus returns, He is coming for one collective bride, which is one church. But the church has many members. We are all seen as his bride, but He has many brides which is one body of true followers. Jesus will marry Miss A, Miss B, Miss C, Miss Smith, Miss Carter, and EVERY SAINT that is ready to be turned to spirit at the First Resurrection.
Shall Become One Flesh
Mark 10:8 "And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh."
Gen.2:24 "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh."
Many people try to claim that Mark 10:8 and Gen.2:24 says that a man can have only one wife. And how can 3-4 wives be one flesh with a man? But Matt.25 and 1 Cor.12:12 explains that a man can have many wives and still be one with them. The many members of the body of Christ, the church, are many, but are STILL ONE IN UNITY with the ONE GROOM JESUS, Therefore the Old Testament and the New Testament both agree that men can have more than one wife and still be one with them.
What Paul Told Timothy
1 Tim.3:2 "A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;"
Many people try to claim that Paul told Timothy that a man can only have one wife. But that's not what he said. Paul was giving personal advice to Timothy about ordaining new ministers of the church. The context is ordaining new ministers. The context has NOTHING to do with lay members, people who are not deacons & pastors. Also Paul didn't say "this is Thus Saith The LORD", but rather was simply Paul's pastoral advice to Timothy concerning new ministers.
The word "one" in this verse in the KJV, in the phrase "one wife" is the Greek word "Mia" which is number 3391 in Strong's Concordance. It can mean "one", but it can ALSO mean "FIRST". In fact, it is translated as "first" 8 times in the KJV New Testament. In the New American Standard Bible & other bibles based upon the oldest, most reliable bible manuscripts, the Greek word is NOT Mia. But rather it is "Heis" which is Greek number 1520 in Strong's Concordance & is translated as "first" 12 times in NASB. Therefore we must look at the context to help us understand whether Paul was saying "first wife" or "one wife". We cannot assume without looking at both the context and other verses and books of the bible. Yet there are NO other verses to confirm that a man cannot have more than one wife. So to use 1 Tim.3:2 to try to prove that a man cannot have more than 1 wife, is totally incorrect interpretation. However, we do have other verses to confirm that we should avoid divorce if possible. Therefore it is MUCH more reasonable to understand that Paul is advising Timothy to not ordain men who have a history of unjust/unreasonable divorce. In fact, that fits the context!
1 Tim.3:3 "Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;
:4 One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;
:5 For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?"
Therefore, BOTH the context AND other bible verses confirm that Paul's advice to Timothy was that a minster should be a man who has a history of being able to stay married to his first wife, a man who in control of his temper and ruled his household well. It has NOTHING to do with forbidding polygamy. In fact, now that we understand that it should be translated as "FIRST wife", then this actually confirms that a man CAN have more than one wife! He can have a second or third wife according to 1 Tim.3! Otherwise, Paul would not say "first wife".
Specific Changes Revealed By Paul
Paul very boldly spoke out publicly many times against the keeping of old covenant ways of life such as circumcision & sacrifices of animals. Paul was very specific about what was done away by the new covenant. Yet he NEVER spoke against polygamy. NEVER! Why?
In Paul's lifetime, Polygamy was common among Jews & even more common than homosexuality among the Jews. Paul spoke out against homosexuality. Why did Paul completely ignore the issue of polygamy if the new covenant abolished it or if GOD considered it to be sin or adultery?
Men are Naturally Polygamous
We know that when men are stuck in a traditional western marriage of only one woman, that many times he will cheat behind his wife's back. To be realistic, MOST men would cheat on their wife if given the opportunity, if he felt very confident that his wife would never find out. GOD created men with very intense, natural sexual desires that are very difficult to control, especially with all of these women walking around in very short skirts/shorts and showing much of their breasts.
74% of men say they WOULD have an affair if they knew they would never get caught. Source: Associated Press, Journal of Marital and Family Therapy. Date research was conducted: September 7, 2016. The same study said 57% of men ADMIT to have already committed infidelity in a relationship. But the truth is, the same study said that 74% of men would cheap IF they knew they would never be caught, therefore the other 17% are lying. This is confirmed by a study conducted in India, which says that 75% of all men cheat on their wife. Source
Of course, just because 75% of men are having sex with multiple women, doesn't prove that it's the will of GOD. But nevertheless, it does prove the natural instinct of men. Most men desire to be with more than one woman. That's not because of the devil, but rather because GOD created men to have a very powerful sex drive. But most women want to be with only one man. These natural differences were created by GOD.
Not to Neglect First Wife
Exo.21:10 "If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish."
Why does GOD tell men to not neglect the first wife if he marries another wife? Why doesn't HE just say "Thou Shalt Not Marry Another Wife."? The bible forbids having sex with animals, and forbids men from having sex with other men, and forbids men and women from dressing like the other gender. Yet it never forbids a man from having more than one wife, and even tells men how to have a successful marriage if he DOES have multiple wives!
Deut. 21:15 If a man have two wives, one beloved, and another hated, and they have born him children, both the beloved and the hated; and if the firstborn son be hers that was hated:
16 Then it shall be, when he maketh his sons to inherit that which he hath, that he may not make the son of the beloved firstborn before the son of the hated, which is indeed the firstborn:
17 But he shall acknowledge the son of the hated for the firstborn, by giving him a double portion of all that he hath: for he is the beginning of his strength; the right of the firstborn is his.
GOD COMMANDS Men To Marry Additional Wives!
Deut. 25:5-10 The bible tells men that if their brother dies, that he should marry the widows of his brother, so that he can take care of them.
However, today in modern times, most women would not accept such an offer, because women today in the western world want to be totally independent. We cannot force our self upon a woman. GOD forgives us if we cannot fulfill his will because of the other person's refusal.
Is polygamy pleasing to GOD? HE COMMANDED IT!
In General, You usually shouldn't marry two sisters:
Lev.18:18 "Neither shalt thou take a wife to her sister, to vex her, to uncover her nakedness, beside the other in her life time."
Men are not allowed to marry his wife's sister while the wife is still living. This is commonsense. If you marry sisters, they will be jealous, even more than typical women. The law of GOD is very clear that a man can have more than 1 wife in this verse but NOT a woman's sister at the same time. However, there are exceptions to this rule! Even The Father himself was symbolically married to sisters Judah & Samaria.
Never have sex with a woman AND her mom! YOU SICKO!
Lev. 20:14 "And if a man take a wife and her mother, it is wickedness: they shall be burnt with fire, both he and they; that there be no wickedness among you."
This is also commonsense. It's just sick to have sex with both a woman AND her mom!
Don't have TOO MANY Wives! Moderation in all things! Calm down boy!
Deut. 17:17 "Neither shall he multiply wives to himself, that his heart turn not away: neither shall he greatly multiply to himself silver and gold."
This verse is wrongly used by some people to try to claim that this means that men cannot have more than one wife. But this CAN'T mean that a man cannot have more than one wife. If it meant that, then the bible would be contradicting itself. What it really means is that a man should have TOO MANY wives. Again, it's just commonsense. A man doesn't need 1000 wives! Just only 2-3 wives should be enough. Some men in the bible had many more, but that was a different generation & things are different now. I believe that for the majority of men in today's society, that just 1-3 wives should be sufficent. But if GOD gives you more, than I cannot judge you as wrong.
Why Women Cannot Have More Than One Husband
Romans 7:2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
:3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man."
There is NO SUCH similar verse forbidding men from marrying another woman! This verse is VERY specific in forbidding women from having more than 1 husband at a time. If GOD forbids men from polygamy, this would be the perfect time to say so!
1 Corinthians 7:39 "The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord."
John 4:15 The woman saith unto him, Sir, give me this water, that I thirst not, neither come hither to draw.
16 Jesus saith unto her, Go, call thy husband, and come hither.
17 The woman answered and said, I have no husband. Jesus said unto her, Thou hast well said, I have no husband:
18 For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly.
We do not know the woman's background, her age, what happened with each of these men. There is a LOT of missing information in this account. But what is clear, is that Jesus did NOT consider this woman to be currently married to the man who she was currently with. Therefore she was not married to all 5 men. Actually she would only be married to the first man she had sex with, unless their divorce was justifiable, in which case, she would be married to the next man she had sex with, but NOT to all 5. Very clearly, one or more of her divorces was not justifiable. Therefore she was living in adultery by living with and having sex with another man.
The word "polygamy" itself means "a man having more than 1 woman/wife". A woman having more than 1 husband doesn't make sense. We do not have any biblical example of a woman of GOD having more than 1 husband without being condemned for it. A woman having sex with more than one male is definitely sin and is very easy to determine this from the bible. It might seem hypocritical or unfair to a woman who has a modern western mindset, but it never seemed unfair or hypocritical to GOD, Abraham, Jacob, Moses, David or Solomon. People today are very heavily influenced by a modern way of thinking that is much different than the way GOD thinks. And a lot of that modern thinking, has the woman being totally equal to men in every way, to the degree to where whatever a man can do, a woman should also be able to do. But that's incorrect thinking. GOD DID give us gender roles! GOD designed men to do certain things that only men should do, and HE designed women to do some things that only women should do. Men and women are different. They are NOT 100% equal in every aspect, regardless of what modern wicked society has told people. Men are to be the leaders and rulers of the household. Women are to be submissive and obedient to men. This is totally biblical and that means that the two genders are NOT equal. They look different & sound different. They think different. Women have talents & abilities that men do not have. Men cannot have babies. And men have talents & abilities that women do not have. A man is to be the head of the women, even as Christ is the head of the church. Is the church equal to Jesus? NO! One leads, the other follows. The only way that men & women are equal is ONLY that they both can serve GOD & live happy lives and have the right to live and be happy. They share some other equal opportunities & rights but NOT about everything! Therefore they are NOT equal. We must get rid of modern western thinking that is full of upside down, delusional lies. The attitude of Eve being the leader or that Eve has just as much right as men to lead, rule, dominate, work outside of the home when married, fight in war (Deborah was the exception, not the general rule), & "do anything a man can do" is a continuation of the SAME sins that got Adam & Eve kicked out of the Garden of Eden! If women & men are equal, then women have no right to be treated different. They should carry their own load, the same load that men carry, pay for their own food on a date, and work on their own cars. The bible says that women are NOT to have authority over men, that's in both a church setting and at home. I'm not saying that men are better, but they are NOT equal. Men and women are two DIFFERENT genders with different responsibilities, capabilities and roles. But Satan is successfully removing those differences in the church, in the family and in society. Now people are no longer considered male or female because of this mentality that they are the same. Humans are now called "it". All of this started with the leftist democrat feminist movement which took control of the church, the family and society. Men need to step up to the plate and become the leaders again & stop being afraid of their wives. The man is the HEAD of the household. What he says, Goes! Yes he is to discuss things with his wife in a loving manner and get her opinion. But he must make the final decision and she must abide by that decision. That's the way GOD made it, oh, accuse me, made him and her!
Galatians 3:28 "There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus." This verse is twisted by people who claim that women can be pastors and leaders and that there is no difference between male and female. But this bible verse is really only saying that salvation is available to everyone. This verse does NOT erase ALL other verses that declare a difference between genders! This verse does NOT erase the biblical teaching of men being the head of the women! STOP using this verse to push your feminist leftist agenda which is destroying our societies!
God is fair, wise & intelligent! GOD is NOT unfair, unwise or unintelligent. HE knows what HE is doing! His ways are AGAINST modern western society. His ways are against feminism and against strong dominate women and against weak effeminate men. Mankind needs to return to the way that we were created to be which is men leading women. NOT women leading men. And NOT men & women being equal with no one leading anyone. The woman was created to help the man. This doesn't mean that men should be ruthless or unloving. Men should not treat women like beasts. They should love their wives and treat them well. They should love them as if they were their own body. I'm not promoting physical, verbal, emotional or spiritual abuse.
Isaiah 55:8 "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord.
":9 For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.""
-Sister Wives (women who share the same husband) can share duties of cooking, washing dishes, doing laundry, cleaning house, household chores, watering flowers, taking care of a garden, caring for pets, caring for the elderly, watching the kids & taking care of the husband.
-Men are more likely to feel free to delegate responsibilities for chores that need to be done, and get more things done in a more timely fashion. The family can be more profitable. Men are less likely to cheat outside of the home, and therefore they will be more loyal to their wives & family and be better husbands.
As the husband and wives grow old together, they can help one another and no one has to be cast away into a nursing home. They can even help one another with mother-in-laws and other in-laws and extended family since there are more people to take care of each other. This was the way it used to be in the good old days before nursing homes.
-Larger families means more laborers for the family farm or other family business.
-Less health problems for one woman who would be bearing all of the children by herself, which can lead to dangerous problems with the female organs falling out. Multiple wives gives better health for women.
-The man's natural, strong sexual needs are better met. There's nothing wrong or sinful about that. It's the way GOD made men. It therefore helps men to not cheat, lie and deceive. He can be honest, and AT HOME instead of in the bar so much, or instead of looking for sex in public bathrooms and websites.
What is the Fruit of Polygamy?
- Less cheating outside of the house. Less lies & deceit. Less chances of bringing home diseases from prostitutes and one night stands.
- Less homosexuality. It's a FACT that a HUGE percentage of straight men have homosexual encounters with other men because their sexual urges are not being completely fulfilled with just the one wife that they have. Again, less HIV & other sexual diseases.
- Yes there would be some divorces, but actually I believe there would be LESS divorces than what we currently see with the traditional monogamous marriages.
- Yes there would be some jealously and problems. But there are ALREADY jealously & other problems in monogamous marriages. All marriages are going to have problems. If the man and the women are truly following Jesus Christ in spirit AND in truth, then Jesus will help them work through any problems.
-Therefore, I really do not see any bad fruit from this doctrine, as long as you obey your local laws. Again, we do NOT condone or promote bigamy, the legal marriage of more than one woman in a location where such is forbidden by the law. Marriage should be a personal relationship, not regulated by human government. Stay out of the legal marriage institutions and you will be safe from law enforcement. It is NOT against the law for a man to have more than one woman living with him, and not against the law for a man to have sex with more than one woman. In GOD's eyes, you are married in such a situation and you do not need to break man's laws by coming under their regulations of marriage.
Why I Write This Article: Evangelizing the Entire World
I do NOT have any new woman in mind. I am not trying to convince my wife or my congregation to immediately embrace me having more wives. I am not teaching this to fulfill the lust of the flesh. I have only one wife and I am happy with her. I couldn't ask for a better wife. But if I am going to lead an international, worldwide ministry that is reaching into Africa, the middle east, South America and across the world, then this topic will come up and HAS come up. I must be prepared to give the correct answer, based upon the Holy Scriptures, what it says, and what it doesn't say. This is about correct doctrine. This is about the truth, regardless of traditional western culture and teachings of religion. This is about being able to reach Muslims, Jews, Mormons, Christians, unbelievers, people in Africa, people all across the world from different cultures & backgrounds. If a man from Africa who already has more than 1 wife contacts me in hopes of following Jesus Christ in the truth, I cannot, in good faith or good confidence, tell him that he must divorce all of his wives except just one. That would be going against the biblical teaching that we should try to avoid divorce. Of course there are also times when the bible does permit divorce. But polygamy is not listed as one of the good reasons. I cannot tell a man to divorce his wives, when the wives are not doing anything wrong. If his wives are truly in love with him, and honoring & respecting him, and following Jesus with him, how can I tell him that he must cast them away? That's not the will of GOD!
We must understand that GOD does NOT have a western mindset. Jesus is GOD of the entire Earth, including Africa, South America, the middle east, cities and jungles, deserts and mountains and coastal areas with different cultures. If anything, GOD has a middle eastern mindset, definitely not a western mindset! People living in the USA, Australia, Canada & other nations that are greatly influenced by American culture, need to get rid of their western mindset. GOD doesn't look at things the same way that modern day Americans look at things. I cannot hinder the salvation of people based upon cultural differences.
In the book of Acts, when the issue of circumcision was being debated in the church, the Jerusalem council determined that they would enforce upon the gentiles the requirements of abstaining from eating foods that had been sacrificed to idols/demons & to abstain from eating/drinking blood. But polygamy wasn't listed as a major issue. Even Jews were involved in polygamy & it wasn't an issue. I cannot make it an issue or cause of disfellowship. I have absolutely no biblical basis for forbidding polygamy.
I don't want to teach something of my own opinion or belief. I want to follow the direction of The Holy Ghost of Jesus Christ. I have prayed about this subject for a long time before finally writing it. I finally received my confirmations last week when I made a special point of asking in prayer about whether I should go ahead & finally write this article. I asked "please show me". Then the very next day, I received an email from a man asking about the subject of polygamy! I knew it couldn't be coincidence. It's not like I get emails about this topic every day, or every month! It's EXTREMELY rare to get a question on this topic. Then after finally starting the article, and then eventually telling a true brother in Jesus that I have started this article, he told me that he just VERY RECENTLY, just within the last week, watched a video where a minister is saying that a man can love more than one woman! Yet that's not the main topic of the video, nor the title, but the minister does make that statement. The brother was able to tell me VERY quickly exactly at what point in the video that this subject is brought up. And I watched it and sure enough, this minister says that a man CAN love more than one woman! Therefore I accept this to be a confirmation. I asked not only for confirmation but also for correction if I was wrong or if this is not the correct time to write the article. Jesus HAS corrected me before about timings or &actions if I asked, or even if I didn't ask. But I have NOT received any correction on this subject, but rather only confirmations and the green light to go ahead. For me to receive the email at this particular time AND for my spiritual brother, who I love VERY much, to have just seen this video, cannot be a coincidence for both events to happen during this time of me seeking confirmations & Jesus' approval.
Objection: GOD created Adam & Eve, not multiple wives in the Garden of Eden.
This is really a VERY poor objection. GOD had to start with only one man. And then only one woman. There had to be a beginning. And all mankind had to be descendants of only these 2 people, not 3 people or 4, but only these 2 people. That's the way it was planned and the way that it needed to be for the sake of all the human species. It doesn't prove ANYTHING about how many wives a man should have. When you count to 10, you have to start with zero, then 1, then 2.....
Objection: "Polygamy is adultery."
Answer: You cannot commit adultery with a woman that you are married to. Adultery is impossible within marriage. Marriage defined by the bible has NOTHING to do with marriage licenses or what human judges decree. Marriage defined by the bible is when a man has sex with a woman who is not currently married. Every time in the bible, that's the situation. Except of course, Jesus doesn't have physical sex with the church. But the church is conceived of the Holy Ghost which is the act of marriage, and we are awaiting the marriage feast at the marriage supper at the 7th Trumpet.
Objection: Men in the Old Testament had problems caused by the sin of Polygamy.
Answer: First of all, you have to define sin. The bible gives the definition: 1 John 3:4 "Whosoever committeth sin transgresseth also the law: for sin is the transgression of the law." Therefore to prove that polygamy is sin, you have to show me in the law where it says that it is forbidden for a man to have more than one woman/wife. You cannot show me that because it's not in the bible. Therefore your statement is already proven false.
Secondly, their problems was NOT cause by having more than one wife. Their problems was caused by the actions of people, but NOT the actions of marrying or having sex with more than one wife. This objection is totally useless. The same problems could have occurred with just 1 wife. The problems spoken of were also ordained to happen. Esau was ordained to be at war with Jacob. Etc. Everything was planned by GOD & was supposed to happen.
Objection: Men who want more than one wife, just want sex, sex and more sex!
Answer: How can you judge someone who haven't met & don't know all of the specifics? You are making a blanket judgment upon thousands of men on this Earth that you have never met, never talked to and don't know anything about. Of course there are going to be some men that are just all about the sex. But that was not the reason Jacob, Moses or Abraham had more than 1 wife. And it's not the reason that Jesus is marrying many people in the body of Christ. There are multitudes of other reasons why a man would have more than 1 wife, including cultures outside of western society where polygamy is considered normal and commonplace. I also believe that it's totally possible for a man to love more than 1 woman AND also totally possible for more than 1 woman to love the same man. In today's western society, people are constantly marrying and divorcing and then getting married again, so why would we think that it's impossible for a man to love more than 1 woman? With polygamy, we are simply skipping the divorce between marriages & all of the chaos of learning of a man secretly cheating behind a woman's back.
Objection: The fact that Muslims, Mormon & Jews are involved with polygamy, proves that it is wrong. We shouldn't do anything that they do.
Answer: We cannot always use that logic of NOT doing what others do. Other people wear clothes, eat, drive a car, eat pizza, etc. Many people in the Catholic Church believe the truth that Jesus is GOD. Many Muslims know the truth that there is ONLY ONE GOD, not 3. Every religion has SOMETHING right and something wrong. We cannot just simply say that we shouldn't follow ANYTHING they do or believe, because the FACT is, they do HAVE SOME TRUTH regardless of how much they have wrong. We must base our approval or disapproval of something entirely on what the bible says. Not what other people do or don't do. There is simply NOT any bible verse that forbids or speaks against polygamy. NONE. In fact, the New Testament SUPPORTS polygamy because Jesus Himself as many wives in the church.
Objection: Polygamy is against the law, and the bible tells us that we are to obey the law of the land that we live in.
Answer: Actually, in most locations on Earth, it is NOT against the law for one man and several women to live together and have sex. That's what we are talking about here. We are not telling people to get legally married. It is when people get legally married that they break the laws of bigamy. If you live in a location where it is against the law to live with and have sex with more than one woman within your own home, even if you are not legally married, then you need to flee that nation/city and find some where else where you will be free to obey GOD in liberty.
A Warning to Men
To a western man, this might seem pretty good to be able to have sex with more than one woman and not be guilty of sin. But it does come with its disadvantages and problems. For most of you, I think actually that you would agree that it's best to try to have only one wife, just to save us a lot of headaches of jealousy and arguments & more responsibility to take care of more people spiritually and physically. I think that most western men will think "I can barely handle one woman, much less 2-3 or more". Many women outside of western society are already accustomed to sharing a husband and so they can handle it better. But for western women, it's very difficult for them. So I would very strongly caution men in all regions of the world, to really examine yourself about your motives, needs and the Will of GOD for your specific situation. Just because it's lawful, doesn't mean it's the best ideal for you.
1 Cor. 10:23 "All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient (profitable). All things are lawful for me, but all things edify not."
You might find yourself in legal problem, financial problems & a lot of headaches. Make sure that your prospective wife and your current wife can get along together and work together. They should be able to be friends & coworkers, not enemies. Make sure that you are not being completely led by the lust of the flesh. It's better to be completely single, without any woman but living peacefully in Jesus, than to have 10 women who all bring you problems and heartache. Our sufficiency/contentment/fulfillment/happiness should be in Christ (Psalm 23:1), not in sex, woman, cars, money, alcohol, drugs or sports. Christ should be our everything. But that doesn't remove the will of GOD. If the will of GOD is that you should have more than one wife, then go for it. But just be sure that you are following GOD's will and not just your own will. Make sure that EVERY wife is a true follower of Jesus Christ who loves you and will support your life of living in the truth in Jesus. You do NOT want a woman who will lead you away from the truth in Jesus. Eternal salvation is much more important than the lust of the flesh.
2 Cor. 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
:15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
Eccles.9:7 "Go thy way, eat thy bread with joy, and drink thy wine with a merry heart; for God now accepteth thy works.
:8 Let thy garments be always white; and let thy head lack no ointment.
:9 Live joyfully with the wife (written by Solomon who had 700 wives + 300 concubines) whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun.
:10 Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might; for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave, whither thou goest.
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